Flexible, Just Do It My Way

 It's not easy to make friends. Even if you find someone with similar interests, you still have several barriers to work around. The higher the social awkwardness, the more barriers. And then the other person has barriers like a job, time constraints, family obligations, or medical conditions sapping energy. So even if you find a possible friend, and even if everything is aligned to go smoothly, the two of you might not form a connection. 

I saw a Witch on Lemon8 looking for a pen pal. Okay, that would be cool. I like getting letters. I decided to check out her account. 

She seemed more or less like me. I liked a few of her posts. I answered the pen pal post, giving my age and location. She followed me. I followed back. 

I was not going to jump straight to sending letters because I don't just give out my home address. She didn't give out her address either, so I presumed her to be of like mind.

She commented on my Dragon Tarot deck. I said I would make a post about my dragons. I did. She didn't like it or comment, but that's alright. 

She kept reposting the pen pal post. Finally, I commented again, mentioning an idea I had, because I thought that would be a good ice breaker. If she liked the idea, I would have something to mail. 

She said she just wanted a pen pal. Then she turned off the comments. I could only see half of what she wrote on the notification. I couldn't reply. I didn't want to look like a stalker, so I didn't comment on any other post or try to send a message. 

I was the only one who responded to the pen pal post.

IDK if lack of response offered her, or if she decided I wasn't the same kind of Witch as her so we weren't that much alike. Maybe she thought people would flock to her, with offering of art and shiney rocks. Maybe she was really looking for men to reply. 

I thought at first that I did something wrong. Maybe I should have been more clear about connecting through social media before going to sending parcels across the country. But, the more I think about it, the less I think I did anything wrong. 

If you want a friend, you have to be a friend. So be present, ask questions, share, and show interest. Do not judge, criticize, or dismiss.

I think probably if several people had answered, she would have been 'overwhelmed' by the response, and she would have culled down responses/letters due to 'time restraints' and so sorry, but can only write to a few, a.k.a. the coolest/best Witches. 

Except it was only me feeling bad for her; pity doesn't equal awe. 

So anyway, I didn't make any friends this week. Blessed be, my dears.